Thursday, November 09, 2006
“I hate it when you open your mouth.”
( angry and insulting)
“I TOO hate it when you TOO open your mouth.”
(Angry, insulted ,eager to strike back)
“Shut up! Both of you.. Don’t start in the morning itself..!!”
(loud and commanding)
Snippets of conversation I heard from inside a hut during my morning walk today.. An old woman lives there with her son and daughter-in-law.
I couldn’t help agreeing with her..
We all have this tendency to score and win during our arguments.
We use hostility, rudeness, sarcasm, finger pointing and idle threats, to win at any cost..
We even bring up unrelated issues from the past..
These only serve the purpose of only hurting the other person.. destroying relationships..
The basic issue is often never addressed..
Let us avoid the instantaneous 'tit for tat' responses..
Let us try to solve the problem in a clear and honest manner.. Present our point of view respecting and validating the feelings of the other person..
Let us be conciliatory.. Reasonable..
It is always better to avoid emotive statements isnt it..?
Let us not jump into conclusions before the other person finishes speaking.. Let us face the facts with an open mind without trying to interpret (often wrongly) the other persons motive..
Maybe we need time to cool down before the discussion..
If so , let us shut up, hold out tongue, grit our teeth and if possible keep smiling..!