Wednesday, October 25, 2006

Acceptance..






THIS IS HOW IT IS.. NOT HOW IT

Was..
Might have been..
Should have been..

NOT HOW

I wanted it to be..
Hoped it would be..
Planned it would be..

I ACCEPT THAT THIS IS HOW IT IS.

Now I get on with my life..

-[auther unknown]

When our our life experiences are not matching with our ‘shoulds’..
When situations are plain unfair, but there is nothing we can do to change them...
When the perfectly rational decision is to let it go..

17 comments:

illusion said...

That's life and there lies it's beauty.

Quote of the moment:
"Tujhse naaraaz nahin zindgi hairaan hoon
Tere massom sawalon se pareshan hoon"

PS: You always gift us these lovely thoughts that otherwise go unnoticed.

Alexis said...

Very true. Instead of asking 'what if', 'why me', 'why now' , etc. if we accept what has happened and try to adjust to that, life becomes easier and bearable. But this is something very difficult to practise, because we always feel that we had a raw deal; that that is life.

~£i~ said...

It is betetr if you try to chnage the situation rather than simply accepting it .

jac said...

I was really curious and so stepped in to look.

And I am still curious.
Will be back to read more.
:)

Anonymous said...

Wot happens in an individual's life is also a matter of the individual's CHOICE.
We choose to act that way.

Sarah said...

Now i get on with my life!.. how true..

Sujit said...

thats true.. and thats hope life should be!.. but it isn;t may of them get attached to shoulds that.. let it go becomes merry a word!..

lash said...

point taken

hope and love said...

illusion,
hmmm.. ya.. thats life..and there lies its beauty..
alexis,
once again i'd like to tell you that u are the typical xample of a person who practice what i preach..
:))
li, i was talking about situations that cant be changed.. unfortunately we come across such experiences in life..
and i was talking about our thinking pattern.. we tend to belive in shoulds.. how people should behave.. how we should be treated fairly.. how we should be competent in everything we do.. that we should be loved and approved by everyone..
but life is not always fair.. we often become bitter, frustrated angry and depressed when our life experiences are diffrent..
changing our thinking helps.. and acceptance of facts that cant be changed is one of the ways to handle such situations..
jac,
plz do come again..
:))
anon,
it is better to choose to think like that when we really dont have a choice..
:))
sarah,
how wise u are..
sujith,
u picked up the 'should' great yaar..!!
:))
lash, now practice it baby..
:))

AF said...

thats 100% right....we acept many things in like but dont get everything...and we finally learn to live with the loses!

~£i~ said...

Well doc , Accept that we can't change many shoulds. May be we should think about only the should's which we are capabale enough of changing.

Sachin R K said...

Beautiful. Two quotes along similar lines - "Of all sad words of pen and tongue the saddest are these - 'It might have been' " and "God , grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference"

AF said...

i had commented here yesterday....where has my comment gone??!!

Vikas said...

thats how life is .un expected and un predictable.Accept is the way it comes and walk to its tunes.

"ZINDAGI KAISI YEH PEHALI HAYE
KABHI TOH HASSAIYE ,KABHI TO RULAYE"

Geo said...

My philosophy too... Dont ever complain about or try to change the things which are beyond your control.

Bhavini said...

Hi,

I have been a regular visitor on ur blog though have never commented so far. And I always seem to get the right answers to some of life's questions through ur posts...

Re this post, nice thought which I agree with u, we forget in our daily life and become frustrated. At such times remembering to accept things as they are and starting afresh is the key.

White Forest said...

simply beautiful!