Monday, January 16, 2006

BOYS..


Gautam’s study leave started today. He is in the tenth...

I come out of my room ready to go to the hospital and see him sprawled on the sofa..Watching football..

He is taking rest. Had gone for his Hindi tuition at 7am.

“ Had breakfast..?"I speak fast. I am already late.

“No.” he stretches himself and leans back on the cushion..

His eyes follow the stupid ball.

“When will you start..? Remember.. U should study well..”

“Hmmm..” he mutters..

“Tell me when will you start..?” I persist..

He lazily shifts his eyes from the TV screen and rests on the clock

“Ten..”

“Ok...Ten.. study well..” I repeat..

He pretends not to hear..

I ring up at 10.05

“Started..?”

“Starting.”

“Study well..”

“Hmmm..” he growls..

“Have something to eat at 11.”
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“What’s there to eat..?” His voice perks up.

“Bread and cutlets.”.

“Hmmm..” he sounds happy

He rings up at 10.25
“There is a power failure.. It’s too hot here..I cant study..”

“ Mama ..Ring up to the electric station.”

“U ring.”

“Me..? Don’t u know that they only listen to adults..”

“Ok.”

“There is no current supply in Bhagath Singh Road..” I tell the electrician.

“Yes . Rain.. We are working on it.”

“How long..?”

“We can’t tell that.. Difficult in the rain.”. His voice turns defensive..

“My son is in tenth.. study leave.. has to study a lot..” I end it with a laugh..As if making a joke.. at myself..Has to pamper him..

He chuckles.

“Soon ma'm ..It’s the rain..” I can hear his smile in his voice..

I ring my house to tell my son …But the phone is busy.. Probably he is chatting with a friend..

My son gets good grades. But he doesn’t sweat over his studies the way I did.. The way the dainty girl in the house opposite to mine does..

He can’t read for more than 45mts at a stretch.. Lazes around the house.. Sprawls on the floor watching sports channels. Rolls on the bed chatting on the phone.. Sits and broods for hours.. And stares at me belligerently when I tell him to study

“Intelligent.. But can do better.. Needs to focus more..” Tell his teachers..

“Hmm.. A doc ..” Their eyes gleam at me silently..” Has no time for the family.. Such a smart boy.. Must be lacking in attention from his parents.”
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“U worry unnecessarily..” My hubby laughs..,. “And u spoil him rotten that’s why he doesn’t put his full effort..” He adds..

I know I should act maturely.. Talk to him quietly . Get the message across as to how imp studies are.. Tell him I am always there to support him.. That we expect him to do his best.. And leave him to himself.. Not interfere… Not nag..
But how can I not ..?
I note that the TV is on as I park my car in front of my house at noon....
He is lying flat on the ground… Pillow under his head.. Feet up on the divan.. Watching football..

“Not studying ..?” I can’t help it..

“At 1pm..?” He stares at me as if I am crazy

I decide not to reply..

“Boys will be boys..” I tell myself..

17 comments:

Geo said...

=)) ha hhahahahahahhah

I know I am not qualified to put a reply to this post.... but sorry... couldn’t help it....

Hahahahhaahahhahahahahha

Another paranoid mom!!!
=))

hope and love said...

geo,
ninakkathu parayam..
:))

>|' ; '| said...

:))
doc..
ur son is mucho mucho better than i ever was..

45 minutes of studies .. ahh. wish i cud do 10 minutes :)

just telling him y he shud get gud scores would b better than naggin tho..my parents never asked me to study after i got in in 7th std.did it on my own rather.

hope and love said...

akkusotto.. 45mts was an exaggeration.. its 25 mts actually..
:))

Alexis Leon said...

Don't force him doc. Let him enjoy while he can. Once he is in +2 he will have no time for fun.

He is getting good grades, isn't he? So why worry. It is always better to be somewhere in the top 10% and socially active than being the topper with no social skills.

After some time, he will know what is expected and will surprise you. It is always better that way rather than forcing him and making him hate studies. A mistake many parents make...

Sujit said...

This is the only time to enjoy afterwards its only sloggin that is left!.. and when is getting good grades why do you want to worry?.. let the intelligence push him up!!..

I am a second grader all my life.. and in a week i will be a doc in technical way thou!.. its not study.. all you need to know is the ability to grasp the physical concepts.. that can lead anywhere!!... Thats my perception!!.. but in current worl he needs to get atleast the average to survive!..

Jo said...

:-)

silverine said...
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jaguu said...

:)

Boys will be Boys.:) But trust me your son is going to grow in to smart, confident & no nonsense Young Man. I dont like generalisation but I do believe a large majority of Boys at 15 are like what your son is. You dont want him to like teen girls who freak out & become paranoid about...exams..pimples..Sun..rain..Boys...everything...

PEACE!!

silverine said...

It's a tough job being a mom I guess and tougher being a kid nowadays. Best of luck to both of you :)

rocksea said...

haha, i used to be like that. lazing off n doin other things and spending less time on studies. i can't sit on a long stretch too. it must be that each person is wired differently,, so if hez going well enough, no need to worry!!

AF said...

Hi anu...just came to say hello to u....shall read all the posts when iam thru with my guest and studies!! byee....miss u !

the Monk said...

avan padichchu edukkum...10th keralayil valiya kozhappam illa...entrance aanu ithiri kashtam...

Barani said...

I liked the title. He is like me,my bro and most guys I have known :)

lash said...

way to go little boy!! keep up the gud work !! :)

Harashita R. R. Bajaj said...

hey if he is getting good grades then whats the problem..and i dont think you want him to b a book warm....always studying....

Parna said...

i guess its easier to be objective when the child is someone else's. you can be dispassionate and give the right advice. but the moment the kid becomes your own, i think the thoughts are clouded by emotions.

very human actually :)